**Due to the heartfelt honesty of this posting, I have to warn that some colorful language is used**
As the parent of a teenager, I found myself dealing with a unique bullying situation last year. A teacher tormented my son daily. I am not the type of parent who intervenes every time one of my children has an issue at school. I am a firm believer we all must learn to deal with negative situations in our own way, since they're inevitable.
(Let me add quickly, in the end I did end up having to intervene in this particular instance)
However, I also found myself giving my child advice I never dreamed I would. His hurt and aggravation reached a boiling point, as he blamed himself for her treatment, and I knew it was time for my son to hear the truth. These were my exact words to him:
“Maybe she is just a bitch. Sometimes people are. They're so unhappy with their own lives, or are drunk on the power of their position of authority over others, they live to hurt and belittle people. You're going to be dealing with bitches your whole life. There's a good chance you’ll work for one someday. You’re going to have to stop blaming yourself and allowing their issues bother you. Just stop and think “Wow, what a bitch!” and move on.”
The thing is, as those words were leaving my mouth, I thought I was having a bad parenting moment, but these past few months have reminded me of the honesty behind my words, because bullying doesn’t stop simply because you grew up.
If you are sitting at your desk right now, look to your left and then slowly to your right. I guarantee your eyes landed on at least one person you work with, who either:
A. Bullies everyone with their position
B. Thinks they know everything and won’t hesitate to brow beat you with it, or…
C. Is the company tattletale.
I’m fortunate I am able to write full-time for a living, and can bury my nose in my own stories. Still, occasionally I have to raise my head and venture into the virtual world of promotions. I’m finding more and more often this list holds true for my job as well. I belong to several different groups, and I see the same things happening repeatedly in each one. A select few bullies keep everyone else from enjoying time amongst their peers with their hatefulness. Why is so hard to be nice? If you looked right then left and you couldn’t find anything wrong with the people around you, or better yet, you found an issue with everyone around, then maybe you are the problem. It is not necessary to be nasty to other people, and if you find you're unable to say something positive to uplift the people around you, then please do all the rest of us a favor and keep it to yourself. If you're having a problem, and need a friend or group of your peers to help you, then what your mom has always told you still holds true. You catch more flies with honey.